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My wife brought a DVD home from the library this week. It was an extraordinary gem, an indie production from Cicala Filmworks titled Arranged.

It's the story of two young women just beginning their careers in the New York City public school system. They find themselves working together in the classroom - one as the fourth grade teacher, the other assigned to a special needs student in that class - and this collaboration sets the stage for their friendship.

Arranged really takes off when it explores how each is also looking toward the next big step in their lives - finding the right man, getting married, and starting a family. But before you dismiss it as just another chick flick, and it does contain elements that could make some grossly insecure guys wince, you should also know that one of the women, Rochel, is an Orthodox Jew, the other, Nasira, a Muslim.

Each comes from a religiously observant family living in a close-knit ethnic community, and in both cases 'finding the right man' is under the control of others.

Arranged is also not an attempt to turn back the clock on women's hard-fought gains. Both Rochel and Nasira are strong and insightful characters.

Arranged was released late last year. It has already picked up several film festival awards and is in limited distribution - not a surprise in the world of low-budget, high-quality, independently produced films.

But it's well worth seeing, even if it does require a small, extra effort. You can buy a copy direct from the filmmakers. It's just $15.50, which includes shipping and handling. That's less than the cost of two tickets for the standard Hollywood dreck at your local multiplex.

And remember - every time someone buys a copy of this movie, another wingnut's head explodes. When you donate your copy to your local public library after you've watched it yourself, you make it possible to blow up even more wingnut heads.

Now, I'd pay to see that movie.

Originally posted to RubDMC on Fri Feb 29, 2008 at 08:56 PM PST.

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Comment Preferences

  •  Thanks for the tip (5+ / 0-)

    I'll be looking for the film, it sounds interesting... Peace!

  •  I like chick flicks (2+ / 0-)
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    RubDMC, luckylizard

    This one looks good.

    The NeoCOM (Corporate Owned Media) is Neocon.

    by Brahman Colorado on Fri Feb 29, 2008 at 09:14:46 PM PST

  •  Arranged marriages often work out quite well (1+ / 0-)
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    RubDMC

    something to be said for commonality of backgrounds and interests....

    opposites may attract but usually prove to be unstable and often quite 'combustible'  and those with widely disparate backgrounds often seemed doomed to failure.

    An ethnic Indian I once worked with - first gen here - was approached by his parents about a 'match'....... they themselves had only met on their wedding day.

    He was 'hesitant' to put it mildly but met the person in question - being a dutiful son.  She was accomplished and beautiful, shared a common heritage (important to both of them) and he was smitten.  Their wedding was a beautiful ceremony and they produced stunning children - quite bright as well.  Seems like a far more stable and loving marriage than many others I've seen.

    Personally I suspect that there's much to be said for similar backgrounds and shared interests.  I'd be good friends with my wife even if not married to her. Though family-wise we differ (she's first gen here - my family's been here for 300+ years) much of my background is the same as hers - only mine left a few hundred years earlier.  We were both the oldest, from blue-collar families (with our mothers having a bit more education and 'status' than our fathers - just realized that now....) first to go to college and similar in many ways......  perhaps a bit too much so.... I'd visit her at school and they'd say "Your brother's here..."  lol  Well, no signs of inbreeding in our kids - quite a good mix actually.  Looks and brains.

    Ironically, many 'matchmaking' services that cater to older people (often divorced men and women) focus on the same 'similarities' that would be factors in an arranged marriage..... common backgrounds, 'status', religion and such.  Better chance of 'success.'

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